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The $37 ‘Social Lubricant’ That Ended Years Of Being Rejected By Women
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By Jake H.| Wed, August 27, 2025 | 08:12 am
My heart is racing.
I'm sitting in a small Italian restaurant. 10 minutes early. Wondering if Sophie will show up.
I don't get many matches on Hinge. So when she replied three weeks ago, I thought I was dreaming. Since then the conversation flowed naturally. She's been one of the few girls who actually seems interested in me.
The door opens. It's Sophie. She’s even prettier than her photos.
"You must be Jake!" she says walking over.
"Yeah-uh tha-that's mee," I stammer, knocking into the table and giving her an awkward sweaty handshake.
"Cute restaurant," she says nervously while pulling her hand back.
"Urmm. Yea-ah. Nice." My voice cracks.
20 minutes later, she excuses herself to the bathroom.
That was the last I saw of her.
I struggled like this for five years.
Talking to women comes naturally to some men. But not for me. I'd swipe endlessly only to fumble the rare dates I managed to get.
All of my friends were in long-term relationships. So I was the guy who always showed up alone. I knew they felt sorry for me and I hated it.
Luckily, things didn't stay this way. This short blog is about how I turned things around.
Now let me begin with...
Why Most Advice Just Made Things Worse
I spent hours pouring through forums, blogs, YouTube videos and anything else I could find.
Most of the advice can be summarised by these reddit suggestions:
“Exposure Therapy.”
“Just start talking to more women.”
“Practice makes perfect. Just talk to them like they’re your friends.”
It sounds simple, but here's the problem nobody talks about:
Every time I "practiced," I failed. And each failure made the next date even more terrifying. This is like telling someone to learn to ride a bike by pushing them down a steep hill. The inevitable crash doesn't teach you to ride a bike. It teaches you to fear the bike.
So I turned to alcohol.
It worked a touch. I’m more confident talking to girls when drunk, but by that point I'm slurring my words. If anything did happen, I’d be hit with even worse anxiety the next morning and barely remember anything
The Text Message That Changed Everything
Two weeks after my date Sophie walked out on me, my phone buzzed.
A text from my cousin Michael in San Francisco.
"Yo weird question but do you still get anxious on dates?"
Michael’s one of those naturally confident guys. Former college athlete, now works in tech sales. The fact that he was asking made me curious.
I texted back: "Why?"
"Just tried something that might help. Remember how I used to get nervous presenting to clients? Found this supplement called B4. It's kind of like social training wheels"
Social training wheels. Interesting way to put it.
"Doesn't change your personality," he continued. "Just stops the anxiety attack. Had three great client meetings this week. Feeling like myself again."
This was coming from Michael. The guy who'd always seemed naturally confident. If he was dealing with anxiety too...
"What is it exactly?" I asked.
"Some nootropic thing. Natural ingredients. Actually shows you what's in it instead of hiding behind proprietary blends. I was skeptical but figured thirty bucks was worth not bombing another presentation."
He sent me a link to their website.
"Look, I know it sounds weird. But I went from dreading client calls to actually enjoying them. If it works for business anxiety, it probably works for dating anxiety too."
I stared at my phone.
Michael wasn't the type to recommend random supplements. And he definitely wasn't the type to admit he struggled with confidence.
If he was telling me about it, maybe there was something to this.
What I Saw that Made Me Stop Scrolling.
Most supplements hide their ingredients behind "proprietary blends."
Basically a way to say "trust us, there's good stuff in here" without telling you what or how much.
B4 did the opposite.
Every single ingredient listed with a breakdown of the science behind each one.
It essentially contains six natural ingredients shown to target specific biological mechanisms that cause anxiety and hijack social interactions.
Instead of dulling all mechanisms like alcohol. They only dulled the ones that cause anxiety.
The result is you feel like yourself without the overthinking, second-guessing and panic attack.
Why This Could Actually Work...
As I was reading the page, I thought back to the #1 advice people kept giving.
"Exposure Therapy." "Just start talking to more women." "Practice makes perfect.
And suddenly Michael’s "social training wheels" phrase clicked.
Think about it: when you're learning to ride a bike, training wheels don't teach you to pedal or steer differently. They just prevent you from crashing while you practice the real skill.
That's exactly what I needed to speak with girls.
I didn't need to become someone else. I just needed to stop my anxiety from sabotaging me long enough to have good experiences.
Once I could actually be myself on dates without my nerves hijacking everything, I'd start building real confidence. The kind that comes from positive experiences, not fake-it-till-you-make-it BS.
After a few successful interactions, I probably wouldn't even need B4 anymore. The training wheels could come off because I'd have learned to "ride the bike."
The reviews backed this up:
"As an introvert, this helps me be more outgoing without relying on alcohol..."
"...it pretty much slows everything down to the point that I feel like I have more time to think through my responses."
"Time out with friends and dates are easier than ever, I feel relaxed, focused and able to have an amazing time without the hangover that comes with the drinking alcohol I was so used to. Best part is, Im not impaired!"
I read through the reviews. Double-checked the science behind each ingredient. And bought three packs once I realised they had a 60-day money-back guarantee.
What Happened The First Time I Tried It
Instructions said "Take 30-45 minutes before social events."
Part of me still thought this was ridiculous.
But I’d recently been chatting with this girl Claire - another miracle after weeks of nothing - so I decided to give it a try.
We planned drinks for Thursday night.
Thursday afternoon rolls around. I'm getting ready with my usual pre-date routine.
Shower. Change shirts three times. Practice conversation topics in the mirror. Consider cancelling the date five times as I know she’s too pretty to ever like a guy like me.
Then I looked at the B4 packet sitting on my kitchen counter.
I mixed the "Sunny Tang" flavor with water.
Tasted... actually pretty good. Like a fancy sports drink.
After 30 minutes, I didn't feel any different. Maybe a little calmer? Hard to tell.
I drove to the bar dreading the usual anxiety spike when I saw her.
The Moment of Truth
Claire was already there when I walked in. Sitting at the bar on her phone.
Normally, this is where my heart would race so fast it feels like it’s going to pop out of my chest.
My palms sweat, my mind goes blank and my voice breaks.
But instead, I felt... present.
Calm but alert. Like my brain had space to actually think.
"Claire?" I walked over with actual confidence.
"Jake! Hi!" She smiled and I found myself smiling back naturally instead of forcing it.
This time I gave her a big hug. No weird hand shakes.
We sat down and talked for three hours.
Not the painful, stilted conversation I'd become used to. Real conversation.
I asked questions because I was genuinely curious about her answers. I made jokes that actually made her laugh. I told stories without forgetting the punchline halfway through.
At one point, she even said, “you know, you're really easy to talk to."
Usually, my brain would now start analyzing. What does that mean? Is that good or bad? Easy to talk to sounds friend-zone-ish.
Instead, I just said, "Thanks, you too," and I meant it.
When she excused herself to the bathroom, I sat there marveling at how... normal I felt.
Present. Like myself, but without the constant background anxiety chatter.
I knew this time she wasn’t walking out on me.
She came back and suggested we grab some food.
I think this might be the first time ever a woman has suggested extending the date.
Was this just a one-time lucky placebo thing…?
Date 2: Mini golf. Normally I'd be overthinking every shot. Trying to impress her with my non-existent athletic skills. Instead, I relaxed into it. Made fun of my terrible putting and one joke almost made her fall over laughing.
Date 3: Cooking class. (Don’t judge. Her suggestion.) When I messed up the sauce, I didn't spiral. Just asked for help. Claire kept looking at me with this expression I'd never seen directed at me before. Like she was genuinely enjoying my company.
Date 4: Dinner at mine. Can’t really share too many details online. But I can confirm B4 helps calm any nervousness in bed as well.
What My Life Looks Like Today
Claire and I are officially together.
Six months ago, that sentence would have seemed impossible.
I sleep through the night without anxiety spirals about upcoming social events.
I haven't wasted hours swiping dating apps because I don't need them anymore.
The constant mental chatter... analyzing every interaction, replaying conversations looking for mistakes... it's mostly gone.
I can be in a group conversation without calculating the perfect moment to contribute. I just contribute when I have something to say.
Should You Try B4? My Honest Take
You might hate this answer, but it depends.
If you’re looking at B4 as this magic wand that’s suddenly going to get you a girlfriend without you doing anything else, then I don’t think it will work.
The truth is, I was already putting some effort into finding a partner. I’d set up my dating profiles, swiped probably too much until I got matches, and actually got a date or two.
What B4 helped me with is being able to talk with women face-to-face.
It allowed me to be myself with my flight-or-fight panic response that turned me into a boring, awkward weird guy that turned women off.
B4 helped me break the cycle by replacing my painful experiences with positive ones so my subconscious brain learned to relax in these scenarios.
If that feels like something that could help you, then I’d recommend giving it a try.
Worst case you just get your money back.
All the ingredients are natural so there aren’t any unexpected side effects.
They keep going out of stock these last few months, but if you click below you can see whether it’s possible to order some:
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Hope this helps,
Jake
P.S. Last night Claire said something that made me tear up: "I'm so glad you're comfortable being yourself around me. It makes me feel like I can finally be myself too." That's what real connection feels like. I'd almost forgotten.